When divorce and child custody issues separate a family, Florida parents can make a tremendous difference in the overall impact on their children. Regardless of whether there is sole or joint custody, minor children need to know that their parents are firm in their love and continued guidance. Parenting is a lifelong job, and being a good parent does not stop with a final divorce decree.

Teens, in particular, require strong parenting and guidance. Both parents can work together as a team by setting similar rules for important events, such as getting drivers' licenses, rules for car ownership and use, dating, parties, and things such as getting tattoos or body piercings. There should be no opportunity left open for children to manipulate one parent against the other on these important issues.

Even small children should understand that their parents have their best interests at heart. Allow children to freely travel between households with favorite toys, clothing, computers and cell phones. Give them the responsibility for caring for these special items. If there are any special restrictions on these items, the parents should discuss that issue out of earshot of the children. This allows the parents to present a united parenting front to the children.

As children grow, parenting issues become more advanced. Employment, higher education, and the child's increasing responsibility for household chores and privileges also grow. Parents may need to give consent for certain activities and events. If a minor wants to join the military, go to college or marry prior to age 18, parental consent would be required. Setting curfews, discussions about sexuality and substance abuse, rules for overnights, and friendships are other areas where it is important for parents to reach agreement.

The divorce attorney is an excellent person to consult about child custody issues and rules. By having a good plan, parents at least have something to look at for their own guidance as children grow and mature to adulthood. Parenting does not end when the child turns 18, except in the eyes of the law. Children are best served by two loving and caring parents, even when that couple has decided that divorce is best for their own well-being.

Source: Huffington Post, "7 Tips For Co-parenting Teens," Tara Fess, Feb. 21, 2012